I hired a developer to set up this blog for me and I had a million mini ideas of what I wanted it to be, but now I’m afraid of doing it wrong. I’m afraid people won’t like the content. I am not a professional writer or even a subject matter expert on anything, except being me.
But I feel like I have to do this, so I’ve been reading all sorts of stuff about being afraid in this space. Kyle Cease, Brene Brown, Liz Gilbert, James Altucher ( all accomplished authors and on Amazon and they are all great reads ) and they speak to being afraid of getting started, keeping going, or going public.
And the fact is, that though they all say in their different ways, the truth is that fear is part of the process. Liz tells us that fear just won’t go away so you have to accept it as your companion and just not let it sit in the front seat.
James Altucher is afraid of everything. Every day. He’s made so many mistakes in every part of his life that fear just hangs around all the time. But he confesses about it daily and just gets it out there. And Kyle suggests that we really go to the worst place. What’s going to happen? If I post something stupid, I’m still going to be alive, and that fact is, that if you are gong to be uber cautious, you’re probably not going to give it your all and be authentic. And then what’s the point? You have to keep up the fake you? You can be assured then, that fear will be your constant companion.
Getting started on something is ALWAY hard. Diets, exercise, new jobs, new relationships, new anything. There can be excitement and fun but it is hard. And then, as Robin Sharma says: says, it gets messy in the middle and is glorious at the end.
Truer words have never been spoken. You can apply that to almost anything.
So I’m just getting this piece out there for starters. And then I’ll write one every day. I chose the name “A Lighter Planet” because a) I already had the domain name and I loved it and at first, it was going to be about weight loss. Ha. And then, I moved to the subject of downsizing (I do know something about that) and then b) sustainability because I really am scared after taking some classes and reading on the subject, that if we don’t get our act together pretty soon, this planet is going to be in trouble.
I’m now focused on some still hazy idea that downsizing is the half-assed remedy to an illness it is unfortunate we contracted in the first place. Consumerism. Mindless, massive acquisition of stuff to make us feel better. To be happy. Oh, it didn’t work. Neither did the painkillers. So now we have to rehab.
Further, we have to try and hope and educate the growing economies on this planet that mass consumerism won’t make them happy either. The richest of the rich in China HIRE people to help them spend their money properly. China pulled the GQ issue on the subject.
There’s a lot to discuss and many of us who have the time and resources to potentially do something about it. So right now, I can’t worry so much about whether you’ll like it or read it that my fear stops me from even getting started. What is the worse thing that can happen?
- My family will be embarrassed.
- Consequently, I will be embarrassed.
- Someone else will judge me and not want to be around me or work with me because I’m embarrassing or a bad writer or a confused person.
- I’ll always wish I started this but have to admit to myself that I was too afraid.
- (Although if I don’t know them, I don’t worry too much at this point.
I am assured it is part of daring to be creative. It is like the first novel (or first 10) that gets rejected. The painter who isn’t recognized until after they die. The girl who writes songs in her bedroom for 10 years until she suddenly gets discovered. The ‘practice’ marriage (that is sort of terrible, but it is also sort of common. You don’t know what you want till you make the mistake of just jumping in and trying to figure it out.)
This blog is not about fear, but the first posting feels rife with it. So I’ll ask for your help this time.
What would life be like if we didn’t just do new things without the fear? We weren’t born afraid to create. We learned this behavior.
Why don’t we all do it? What are YOU afraid of?